Online Dating Sites: Entertaining and Resourceful When Moving!?! Get out of Here!!


Moving to a new city alone is always a bit scary, especially if you do not have a support group in place for when you arrive. When I moved to Los Angeles when I was 18, I moved in with a friend. When I moved to Las Vegas when I was 23, I moved in with a friend. When I moved to Orange County when I was 25, well…I think you get the picture 🙂 Now here I am at 28, not moving to a city within driving distance of my family and friends but instead I am moving to a whole different country! In a totally different hemisphere for goodness sakes!


Often when people move abroad they have friends, family, a job, school; some type of support there waiting for them. I, on the other hand, am doing this move more of the “Hot Mess Way”.  I do not directly know anyone in Sydney, and am trying to be proactive on setting up connections for when I arrive to this beautiful city filled with hot douchebags, kangaroos and 90 dollar Converse Chucks!?! I am not afraid that I won’t be making friends once down there; all I keep hearing from everyone is how easy it is actually and to stop being such a worry wart.  I would just  feel a little more at ease about this move if I had connections already established, you know?It’s like when I go out to the bars with girlfriends, for  example, its almost a given that someone will end up buying us drinks at some point in the night, but do I still bring my own mini bottles in my purse to be safe??? ummmmm, You betcha!!

Due to this lack of friends and family down under, I have had to resort to using 2 main avenues to get some dang friends. One is through friends, and the other, which is the motivation behind this post, is through an online dating site called OKCUPID.

So…Let’s explore:

Avenue 1. FRIENDS

I have been bugging the living crap out of everyone I know to help connect me with those they know in Australia.  The response has been remarkable, and I feel so freaking blessed to have so many thoughtful friends willing to go out of their way for little ole me. I will forever be in debt to many of you, so thank you 🙂

Avenue 2. OKCUPID   

  Just in the past few days alone I have had so many different conversations about online dating sites with friends and co-workers. EVERYONE has their own opinion on online dating, I understand it is still a bit of a taboo subject for many… wait,, I don’t!.  I just want to say for all those who are stuck in 2001 and think online dating sites are just for rejects, losers and people who have no social skills. Please think again. It is now 2014, and statistics show that around 42 million Americans have tried some form of online dating; that’s about 40 percent of Americans who are single and ready to mingle via the internet. Pretty much everyone I know uses them (even though some wont ever admit, ya… I know who you are…I have seen your profiles Whether you admit to using them or are still scared in the closet, one thing is a fact…


Due to having a demanding schedule between obtaining my degrees and working, I have been on online sites for many years off and on for the purpose of dating and finding new friends. NO SHAME HATERS 🙂  In my most recent move to Newport Beach, Okcupid was a huge variable in helping me make friends in a city where I didn’t really know anyone. FYI, Newport is  a city where everyone gets too drunk to remember meeting you unless it is actually in some form of writing prior to the night out, so I knew I would need some online back up right of the bat.  Anyways, after a very crazy psycho encounter with a guy I met through Plenty of Fish back in December (here comes an splendid run on sentence) – he threatened to sue me for emotional damage after hanging out three times because I stopped responding to his texts messages, and accused me of not caring about his personal well being because I made him take me on a late night Del Taco run when he doesn’t eat fast food (phew okay, run on = complete).  So after this scare of being told to “Lawyer up,” I said goodbye online sites!!! You finally did it!!! Good job on finally finding someone who is even too crazy for me (which says A LOT). So I took some action and deleted that account and just laid low for awhile (oh yah, and moved and blocked my number, you know…. the usual thing one does after 3 dates ;)).

Now that I am pretty certain I have just FREAKED everyone out  on the use of online dating sites, let me try and redeem them jusssstttt a bit.

  • I am not here to talk about online dating sites for finding your soul mate, nope… staying off that topic for now.
  • I am not here to tell you that it is the safest way of meeting people, cause its not.

I am here to talk about how it can be used as a useful resource in obtaining information on the location  one is moving to.

The Begining.

With the move to Sydney on the rise and knowing I would need assistance once I arrived, I decided to give online sites another shot at helping me find friends. I found  it  very successful for my Newport Beach mov after all.  I can’t hold that crazy guy against the sites forever (If that was the case, I would never enter a bar or club ever again, so argument invalid).  I changed my location from Newport Beach to Sydney, and changed my reason for using the site from “dating” to strictly “making new friends.” I made it very clear I was only looking for new friends and in no way at all whatsoever wanting anything else.  Even though I am sure guys don’t actually read that and instead see “Soooo… what you are telling me is, that there is still a chance?” 😉 

After almost 3 months of messaging people in Sydney via Okcupid, it has once again proven to be very resourceful. I have gathered an immense amount of information, advice, tips, and warnings from people that I would have NEVER been able to get in any travel book. I am getting advice first hand from people who are or were in my current situation. The other half of guys I have responded to are from Australia, and have been able to assist in answering all the idiotic questions I have for them, and trust me, I have plenty. All around, this site has helped to open my eyes up to Sydney without even being in Australia. Am I going to meet up with all these people? NO! Some? Yes. But even if I don’t ever meet one, each and every one of these encounters has been helpful to me in someway or another.

I would like to now share some of the different types of messages I have received

In the order of: Normal to Creep

Examples of Excellent Opening Messages (Key – Don’t be creepy) 



Examples of Pleasant First Messages (Once again – Non-creepy)



Examples of WTF!?! First Messages – (Ummm, A bit Creepy)



Examples of OMG OMG Run MICHELLE RUN First Messages 



Now as you can see, there is a correct way on approaching me, and some wrong, very wrong ways of approaching me.

Little Disclaimer: This is just my opinion; some people might really like having some stranger want to kiss their hair a thousand times a day! Not knocking it, just… umm… not for me? And in general just not the correct approach for my blogging purposes today.

Hopefully the weird messages haven’t swayed your opinion completely to the negative. I hear weirder shit on the regular at the bars out here, seriously, what’s in the water? As a whole, these types of messages only take up a minute amount of the messages I receive, most of them are perfect okay.  I do only reply to maybe 1 out of every 15 messages though, typically because they consist of just say “hi” or “you’re hot” or “hey”. If I wished to get hit up that way I would just stay here in Newport, and hang out at Sharkeez’s all day long.

Wrapping up…

In the end, this post was intended to show that good things can actually come from online sites for traveling purposes. It has been proven as a successful way for ME to get to know the future environment I will soon be living in. If I end up wanting to meet any of these guys I am very  informed on all the different factors and precautions that one should take before doing so, as EVERYONE should be (please research how here). I have made some really good connections down in Australia through Okcupid already, and have learned so much about the culture and lifestyle down there without even being there yet. YES, there are horribly creepy guys on there that you should stay away from, absolutely. But, there are also some really cool people to be found online that I think is worth a shot of getting to know.  Don’t end up meeting up with them if you’re scared! Just hear their opinion and tips on the area through messaging (every new view point can be put to use in my eyes). They could really help educate you on things you want to know.  Music, current events, festivals, economy, weather, bad areas,  – these are just a few things I have been able to get myself already familiar with. I now have a diverse group of friends from different countries, where all I am doing when messaging is LEARNING!  So much culture in my life now, and I am not even out of Orange County yet!

I think people can get more out of what they think on these sites. Not just dating sites, but general online networking sites. Just like the popularity of every media company thinking they need to sell SEO, I predict these types of sites will continue right along with them. Online dating and network sites are not going anywhere people… so you might as well  try and get something out it.

<3 Michelle

If you fancy to know a bit more on the statistics and messaging on Okcupid:

Advice from Okcupid on messaging

Statistics for Online dating use

 Comments are welcome below


  1. Don’t hold us all responsible for the few nutcases lol. I’m sure you’re going to love it here. I chatted online for years and made so many fantastic friends who still light up my world although the chat room is long since dead and buried.. If you need any help when you get out here, message me. Always ready to lend a hand (Y)

  2. Hi Michelle, I loved this post. Wow! Some cracking examples of creepy openers there.

    I never really thought about dating sites as a friend-meeting tool. I think this may demand some investigation. Thanks for stopping by my blog and liking sooo many posts! That was a nice surprise, I can tell you! When do you move to Sydney? My brother moved there last summer and is LOVING it. I’m going out to visit next month (omg! next month!!) so maybe you can share some of this insider knowledge you’ve garnered…? 😉

    1. yes I will defineitly be keeping people in the loop of how many of these people I end up keeping in my life once there. haha yes, I would love to share!!! 🙂

      1. They’re…oh, look, they’re really NOTHING to worry about.

      2. Only the most terrifying thing ever. You hear about the spiders and snakes and crocs, but they don’t tell you about the drop bears.

        Just keep one eye looking up when going through wooded areas or parklands.

  3. So jealous you’re moving to Sydney! I’ve been to New Zealand, which I’ve heard is similar, but Australia is still HIGH on my list! The first email example was terrific! Confident and witty– everything an intro email should be. On the “bad” email side, the fart one was by far my favorite. How could you not be madly in love already? 😉 LOL

  4. I’m going to risk landing myself in the Creepy category here, with a topic-appropriate link to a classic Australian tune.
    (These are the same guys who later gave us the heartrending Throw Your Arms Around Me – just to let you know, they have their soft side too)

  5. Oh god some of these messages are just so wrong! We are not all like this. Good luck I hope you love Sydney.

  6. Thanks for liking my post, ‘A House Is Just A House. Good luck with your move to Sydney. I look forward to getting acquainted with your blog. Be well.

  7. Did this in ’81 as a 30 yr old…came with finacee’ .. went to the pommie ghetto called St Ives…got married..had two kids…built a divorced…bla bla bla…never looked back…just could not leave Thatchers Tories quick enough…UK is screwed…Welcome to Oz…have fun and enjoy the extended holiday 🙂

    1. Aw I am glad to hear it worked out well for you 🙂 Thank you!! 🙂

  8. Your post was hilarious! Sydney is an incredible city – sure I’m a little biased because I’m a local – you’ll really enjoy living here. And you’ve already got some funny stories to tell courtesy of some unique Aussie guys hahaha!!

  9. Haha I just came across this, so funny! Best of luck with your move. Australia is beautiful, I couldn’t imagine living anywhere else. If you’re after beaches the south-west coast of Victoria should definitely be on your list!


    1. Thank you so much! I will take a look at Victoria, thank you 🙂

  10. Firstly, there are much better beaches than Bondi. Just sayin! If you love outdoors, you MUST go to the Blue Mountains and the national parks up towards Hornsby and south towards Wollongong. For food, the best Lebanese food I’ve found is in Auburn, and Cabramatta has some of the most delicious Thai/Vietnamese/Chinese food you will EVER have outside of their respected countries! Get an Opal card for the trains/buses, explore the city, but also get a local to tell you where NOT to go unless you want to be mugged…
    I moved to Sydney five years ago to be with my (now) husband and it is a beautiful city. The rent sucks, but then you visit Hyde Park and Oxford St and deep down, you know it’s worth it!

  11. Good luck! I’m sure you won’t regret your decision to move down under haha. Melbourne’s pretty cool too, so make sure you come down here for a visit, x

  12. Good luck with the move here Michelle, I look forward to following your adventures.

  13. I took OKCUPID for a whirl in Sydney as well and as a fellow expat-American, I can relate on all counts! The best comment I got was from a 57 year old man who addressed me as “Fascinating wench, hello!” Interesting times…I may have to fire it up again.

    Anyhow, sounds like you are killing it! Another good site is – you can sign up for an account that will tell you all the upcoming networking events in your area, in a particular genre! I hit up the media/writing related ones, but there are events on just about every topic you could imagine. I made heaps of awesome friends and career connections. It’s really nice to mingle in an innocuous environment where people aren’t trying to get in your pants! Or maybe they are, but at least they are subtle about it.

    My favorite event was the Environmental & Sustainability Drinks that meets once a month at the Slip Inn in CBD…they have excellent speakers, a good crowd, and of course, TACOS.
    Best of luck!

  14. So the “boobs! marry me, marry me, marry me” (ok I’m paraphrasing a little) guy was only a bit creepy….. Seriously though the back end of this post contains some serious comedy. One of the best laughs I’ve had in a long while 🙂

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