Social media for moms is the definition of a gift… Or wait, is it a curse?
It keeps us in touch with the world but also distracts us with false realities, expectations, and too many talking cat videos! Like many of us moms, when we are not too busy cleaning poop off the wall or hiding in the bathroom to eat alone, social media is our escape even though it can be the worst.
Keeping up with the Jones…Who got a new car? Did you see that new ring? And please, can you all notice how happy I appear to be in this photo?
Here are 7 Reasons why social media is the worst for moms
Birthday Party or Royal Gala?
Thanks to social media, these days every kid’s birthday party needs to be better and bigger than the one they saw on Instagram the month before. Forget what your 2-year-old actually cares about, if it is not exciting enough for people to stop and comment on, apparently it is not a party!
Social Media Mom-Shamers
Social media for moms hold a special place in the bad place for all those mom shamers. Being a mom is tough enough without having other moms make them feel like crap. Mom shamers are the high school mean girls of mommyhood. Their goal is to make you feel like crap and insecure about being a mom. And thanks to Social media, oh golly do those bullies come out of the woodwork.
Everyone always posts how much fun it is to get out and have this drink. Let’s not mention the tanning at this beach, watching a band. It all makes other mothers feel left out. Social media makes it as if everyone but you is screaming, YOLOOOOO!! While you are screaming “don’t put that in your mouth” instead.
Social Media Gender Reveals, Really?
Come on people, these are just getting ridiculous. Did you see the guy who caused a wildfire from his “amazing” gender reveal? I bet you the next trend is going to be up on the freakin moon for a reveal. Social media is causing gender reveals to be taken too far when we all know they never used to be this crazy. If my tax paying dollars are going towards the Fire Department on call for you, you need to pay me back, okayyy?!
So So Pretty?
As a work from home single mom, it is safe to say I do not get out much.. orrrr put on much makeup… orrrr like ever get changed out of my pjs. But between all the miracle products I see people selling and wearing on social media and Snapchat filtered photos, I always feel like an ugly piece of fajita steak! I mean, I am lucky if I get the energy to put both contacts in! Social media is making mom feels like they need to enhance their looks when in fact, they do not at all.
The Perfect Family
On social media everyone’s family is perfect. No fighting, just smiling in a picture in front of the fireplace. Once again, no one is going to post the catfight that just went down about who wore the gold belt better, you are just gonna see a happy functional family in your face. Normal motherhood is yelling, crying, happy, sad, crappy, should we go to the ER…?
Social media is a great way to feel connected with your friends, family, and just society in general. Having that said, moms need to take everything they see and read with a grain of salt.
Best Vacation Ever
When you are home exhausted, cooking, cleaning, and digging cheerios out of your toenails, nothing is worse than seeing everyone on holiday in the Bahamas. When you are just busy doing mom stuff and you happen to glance at social media, it feels like everyone is on a vacation BUT YOU! How did they find the time? When did they get the time to plan it all? Though I think seeing friends on vacation should be a good motivation to make it part of your goal for the year, don’t believe everything you see on social media. Yes, I am sure the beach is beautiful and the hotel room view is perfect..No one will be posting about the bed bug issue on the sheets or Bob’s drinking problem. Yes, the minibar does cost extra.
Social Media is the Worst For Moms Sum Up
People in general on social media use it as a platform to make everyone believe they live the life they wish they did. Mostly never publicize anything negative in their life, therefore only promoting the positive. Which, I totally get that and agree with holding back on anything private that might cause a negative wave.
I guess the problem is with many moms who do not get out much and depend on social media as a platform for news and insight into the world, they assume they can not relate to others when their own world doesn’t match what they see.
Just remember, everyone sees that amazing Christmas family photo but no one sees the photographer quitting and mother in law taking a shot of vodka before the first snap.
<3 Hot Mess
P.S. My next article will be on why it’s the best so don’t get your panties in a bunch 🙂